I don’t mean to suggest that we had romance “right” in the days of chastity belts and arranged marriages. But I feel as though we all sort of know how romance ought to play out. Hookup culture is an unnavigable mush of vague intentions and desires, and that’s true even on nights when people don’t go home with novel odors and difficulty urinating.
We can try to dress it up as being freeing or equalizing the genders, but I fear it only leaves us equally impoverished.
C.S. Lewis said that “friendship is born at the moment one person says to another: “What? You too? I thought I was the only one.” Maybe I’m naive and idealistic, but I prefer the narrative in which emotional and physical love come as a package, one experienced with a very small subset of the population. I have a sneaking suspicion that I’m not the only one.
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(USA Today) Lisa Mogilanski–Why I'm uncomfortable with the hookup culture
I don’t mean to suggest that we had romance “right” in the days of chastity belts and arranged marriages. But I feel as though we all sort of know how romance ought to play out. Hookup culture is an unnavigable mush of vague intentions and desires, and that’s true even on nights when people don’t go home with novel odors and difficulty urinating.
We can try to dress it up as being freeing or equalizing the genders, but I fear it only leaves us equally impoverished.
C.S. Lewis said that “friendship is born at the moment one person says to another: “What? You too? I thought I was the only one.” Maybe I’m naive and idealistic, but I prefer the narrative in which emotional and physical love come as a package, one experienced with a very small subset of the population. I have a sneaking suspicion that I’m not the only one.
Read it all.